Well this is going to be one of those posts where I ramble on and on about the pitiful little problems in my world. Soooo here goes:
This wedding, oh man, unbelievably stressful. We did in fact call off the big, old (and when I say old I mean oooold) barn wedding. As sad as I am about this, it does alleviate some of the stress that came with it. Old barn, needs some work, bats, (yes i said bats) which I was warned about in the very beginning, no bathroom, no AC, (our wedding date is/was August 31st) not a whole lot of electrical, it just wasn't going to be as easy as I would have liked, being as we are doing everything ourselves. Soooo that leaves us with the question, "what the hell are we going to do now?"
In the beginning I had it all planned out, I knew what I wanted it to look like. I had my dress (still do). I had my bridesmaids and maid of honor and we even bought dresses and shoes for them. I already had my invitations (printed with the barn's name and address). I was buying things here and there and my future MIL was also buying stuff, so we had accumulated quite a bit. Still I had this feeling inside that this wasn't going to work.
We were also having issues on who to invite. We knew who we wanted to invite, but then you have other people telling you "well you can't invite this person and not that person." and " I would like to invite this friend and that friend." Dan and I are not the type of people to spend a whole lot of money on certain things especially on a 4 hour long event for OTHER PEOPLE. This wedding was supposed to be about US starting our happily ever after, and as much as we would love to share it with every single human being we've ever know in our entire lives, that just isn't in the cards.
I don't know, maybe that makes me a bad person or a selfish a-hole. I sure hope not!
So what are we going to do, you ask? Hell if I know!
His parents are sending us on our honeymoon (already booked and paid for btw) and my thinking was let's just get married, just the two of us, on the beach, which is still a definite possibility. Then there's my Dad's house. They have redone they're back patio and it's quite beautiful. Then I thought why not just have a mini BBQ in our backyard? Well we end up running into the same problems. "Hell ,we should just go to the courthouse!" says Dan. Isn't he romantic!! ;)
I so bad want my parents and my son to be there when I get married. No one thought I would ever even be considering marriage! If we get married at the beach I'm not sure they would be able to come. Tyler would be back in school by then. Everyone would have to travel to Florida (from Ohio and Alabama). Plus it's supposed to be our HONEYMOON!
I'm at a loss here. Maybe we should go to the courthouse. UGH!
Any thoughts?
Honey, it's about you and Dan, doesn't matter if you have everyone there, or no one there, this isn't about everyone else, it's about the love you both share with each other, and if people don't understand that, well honestly that is their issue not yours....Do You Love Him...Does He Love You....Do You Both want to spend the rest of Your lives together? If You can answer those questions with Yes's then it doesn't matter where you go to get married, it doesn't matter if no one or everyone would be there....it's about You and Dan....no matter what you decide...I wish You all the Best that Life has to offer....That Your Love for each other endures forever, even on those days when you get mad at each other....I say and this is only my opinion....Courthouse :D
ReplyDeleteRobin, I appreciate your comment sooo much! I think, though, that we're just going to do at the beach... Even if i'm not having the wedding that I really want, (mainly because of the venue issue) I still need a little bit of romance for that day!
ReplyDeletexoxo~Heather